Forgive Selfishly


“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” -Lewis B. Smedes


It’s a nice sentiment to say “you should forgive people because it’s the right thing to do.” But it isn’t effective. It’s just too hard. Human nature dictates that we should hurt those who hurt us, and our way of doing that is by unforgiveness (unless you’re the type that keys cars, but I doubt it).

Bitterness is a dense and poisonous fog. It clouds our sight, skews reality and makes us spiritually ill. So forget whatever amount of small harm it does to the person you hate, why are you killing yourself slowly? It’s really like saying, “Hey you hurt me so I’m going to drink bleach.” Maybe that’s a bit of a hyperbole, but you get my point.

Stop to think about the ridiculousness of unforgiveness. Who does it really harm? They’re not the ones carrying around a lump in their chest.

So just forgive. Do it for you, not them. You work out, you eat healthy and you don’t smoke that much. So forgive the people you hate because if you don’t you might as well be lighting up two packs a day. The amount of stress it causes is detrimental to your physical and spiritual health. Bitterness is spiritual cancer.

True confession corner: Honestly, I’ve never forgiven a single person for their sake. I do it all for me, because it makes my life better. I’m not going to pretend that I somehow have overcome human nature and am now above all humanity. Know your weaknesses, to turn them into strengths. Let your selfishness become forgiveness.

Forgiveness is an easy lesson to forget, so don’t. Wear Soul Stones to remind you everyday.



[photo by Larm Rmah]


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